“So this is Christmas… and what have you done…“
John Lennon’s words can make one pensive… as Christmas is also about love and some gifts, I once wrote on my old blog about the languages of love, and it involves presents, too. I don’t like writing much here (people prefer pictures), but why not for a change… so here it is again. Hope you don’t get bored.
The 5 Love Languages show you how people express love
As Christmas is around, this can be handy. Many people don’t say “I love you” – it can even be fake sometimes. Instead, in one of the psychology classes I took some years ago, the lecturer told to observe some details – people have different ways to express love – on Christmas as well:
– Observe their behavior: what do they request most often? Their requests reveal their love language;
– What do they complain about most often? “We don’t have enough time together” suggests that quality time is their love language. “You didn’t bring me anything” show that gift-giving is their language.
People may have more than one language, too.
The 5 styles are:
1. Acts of service – Those with this language perceive love even in small things, like preparing breakfast and going to the supermarket to buy what the partner likes. For them, a proof of love is when the partner reciprocates;
2. Quality time – when even watching a boring TV program together is time together, of course;
3. Gift giving – it’s symbolic, like exchanged wedding rings. The act of giving or receiving presents have an emotional value for the ones who “speak” this language;
4. Physical touch – holding, kissing or even sitting side by side while watching that boring TV program that was mentioned above;
5. Words of affirmation – Words of reassurance, not only “I love you”, but “you look so beautiful today”, “I love the way you cook”, and so on.
And just because people say I can draw, I created this piece:
I wish everybody a happy Christmas with lots of love and smiles!
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