Love at first Sight x Love over time – do you believe in love at first sight?
Do you believe in Love at First Sight? Is there such a thing? Is it possible? Or is Love something that is build over time, after the first feeling of attraction (or even not, when you discover that a person can be a great partner due to other reasons other than mere attraction). Has Love at First Sight ever happened to you or any person you know?
I remember two situations. A movie where a guy told a friend that he saw a girl in a field and he realized that she was the love of his life. The friend asked “and what happened then?” He replied “I never saw her again“. I told this to a friend after a “strange” day. We were eating pizza in London – that’s irrelevant, but just to report everything She saw a guy eating alone and told me “he is the love of my life“. He looked at her and both smiled. Over the next 30 min, I felt like a chaperone I told her “OK, he clearly likes you, but may be shy. Go say hello!” But she was shy, too. We finished pizza and went outside. He left the place, too. Looked at her and smiled. I told her “he will talk to you now!”, but he left. She told me she went to the pizzeria to ask the owners if he was a regular client, they couldn’t recall him and asked them that “if ever they saw a man with a burgundy leather business bag, please give him my number”. No one has ever called. Over the years, she told me that she knew he was the love of her life. Could it really be? Who knows!
Science says that when we see someone for the first time, our brains process mixed information into a whole, and we don’t realize that. Is the person articulate (in a friends’ circle, for ex.) and has sense of humor? Do you find the person’s voice nice? You may also perceive the body language, that tells a lot – but you can’t explain that, it’s complex. You just feel it.
Can it also be that you strongly liked the person and that is different from loving? It seems that love “includes a set of caring activities like being loyal, consistent, candid, trustworthy, considerate, empathetic, tolerant and supportive. It seeks the welfare, happiness and safety of another.” And all that takes some time, it’s built brick by brick. But you can also listen to what your brain is doing with you, without your conscious knowledge Here are 5 questions about how you feel about your partner. Obviously not everything, but some good points.And more questions you’ll find here. Can you add any other question?
1. Do you feel more relaxed when you are around this person? It seems we’re at our best when we are relaxed, and can accomplish the most then.
2. Do you have fewer unexplainable symptoms around this person? No joke, it may happen. Muscle pain from feeling tension, jaw pain from grinding teeth, itchiness from stress-related skin conditions, heartburn… Clearly it can be something else, but pay attention to your body signs.
3. Does this person help you when you are injured or sick? How your significant other behaves when you are down is critical!
4. Do you feel optimistic and confident with the person? Having a partner who can encourage you is extremely important. Who wants a partner who puts you down and makes you feel inadequate?
5. How do you feel about your own time? If you need a lot of space and time for yourself, but still look forward to being with the person on different occasions, then you have fallen in love That is sooo my case!
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